Stillbirth and Miscarriage, a Life-Changing Loss: 'Say My Baby's Name'

'Say my baby's name' walks the reader gently and gradually through the journey of loss experienced by the five men and twenty-seven women who courageously shared their stories. We learn about every aspect of the journey - from the moment news of the pregnancy breaks, to the sense of foreboding that something is not quite right, and on towards the devastating loss at different stages of pregnancy and birth. The book will be enlightening for all those interested in learning more about the life-changing loss of a baby. The reader will gain insight into the emotional world of those bereaved of a much-wanted baby and learn that the loss impacts profoundly on parents' mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. Embedded in the chapters are key messages for families, society, health professionals, employers and parents. The purpose of researching this sensitive topic is to give voice to those who 'know' and understand pain through their own lived experience. Therefore, from the outset, through the stages of ethical approval, organizing, setting up and recording 32 interviews, transcribing, analysing and formulating the chapters, the aim was to ensure that the voices of the bereaved mothers and fathers remained central, as the book came to fruition. Personal experience of loss, insights gained through studies in psychology and engaging in therapeutic work with bereaved people over many years have collectively drawn my attention to areas of study that are closely associated with my life and my history. This work is inspired by a personal life journey of growing up 'close to grief'. My brother Patrick was stillborn and the loss weighed heavy on my beloved parents and our close family members.